Relationships -- or the lack thereof. 12.7.05
Well, besides the hustle and bustle of the season (bah, humbug?) the only real pressing thing on my mind lately is the lack of someone special in my life. I don't know why suddenly the desire for a companion has become so important to me. I have been divorced for 21 years and quite frankly haven't dated a whole lot since. It's not that I ever really lost interest in men -- that'll never happen -- I suppose I was just focused on family (extended family -- I have no children), career and friends. And that's where the men in my life always seemed to end up -- as friends. I don't mean it as a bad thing, either. Seems as though I always could relate quite well to the opposite sex and still do. It's just that I now find myself missing the emotional and physical closeness that comes with a real romantic relationship. Ahhh romance. Yeh, I miss that for sure.
So it's been almost a month now since I signed up for a couple of those on-line dating services. Actually, I signed up for three of them to make comparisons. Match.com and Cupid.com are similar. Everyone answers questions about themselves -- age, height, body type, religious affiliation, etc. Then each member writes up a short commentary about themselves and what they are looking for. Well, okay. That could work, I guess. But I find it hard to believe that every man in the world is athletic and toned, loves to rock climb, works out at the gym four or five times a week, and will settle for nothing less than a Barbie doll with brains. Well, that part I believe. So I find myself competing with a rubber doll whose dimensions are so exaggerated that she would actually be nothing short of freakish if she were scaled into real life proportions. How are ya feeling about that, guys? And brains? She doesn't have any, guys. She's a rubber doll! Do I sound a bit disenchanted with on-line dating? Maybe just a tad. I did get some interesting communication from a few of the members, though -- including some very inappropriate communications. But hey, I was amused. I'm glad I looked into it; I just will not continue with these two services.
The third on-line service I tried was eHarmony. It's slightly different in that I filled out a relationship questionnaire and then was provided with my own individual personality profile. My profile actually fits to who I am, so I found that interesting. Then, based on my profile, I am matched with "compatible" members. By "matched with" I mean I receive their own short commentary about themselves along with a portion of their personality profile and they receive mine. We can choose to begin communicating with each other, or say "no thanks". Communication is in four stages, so members are led through what appears to be a pretty safe process until both members want to enter into "open communication" and bypass the service as the middle man. Members can choose to share photos during any stage in the process. I will stick with this service for a while as one month just isn't enough time for me to form an opinion on this system. I guess I think it's worth trying out for a while. I'll keep ya posted.
So it's been almost a month now since I signed up for a couple of those on-line dating services. Actually, I signed up for three of them to make comparisons. Match.com and Cupid.com are similar. Everyone answers questions about themselves -- age, height, body type, religious affiliation, etc. Then each member writes up a short commentary about themselves and what they are looking for. Well, okay. That could work, I guess. But I find it hard to believe that every man in the world is athletic and toned, loves to rock climb, works out at the gym four or five times a week, and will settle for nothing less than a Barbie doll with brains. Well, that part I believe. So I find myself competing with a rubber doll whose dimensions are so exaggerated that she would actually be nothing short of freakish if she were scaled into real life proportions. How are ya feeling about that, guys? And brains? She doesn't have any, guys. She's a rubber doll! Do I sound a bit disenchanted with on-line dating? Maybe just a tad. I did get some interesting communication from a few of the members, though -- including some very inappropriate communications. But hey, I was amused. I'm glad I looked into it; I just will not continue with these two services.
The third on-line service I tried was eHarmony. It's slightly different in that I filled out a relationship questionnaire and then was provided with my own individual personality profile. My profile actually fits to who I am, so I found that interesting. Then, based on my profile, I am matched with "compatible" members. By "matched with" I mean I receive their own short commentary about themselves along with a portion of their personality profile and they receive mine. We can choose to begin communicating with each other, or say "no thanks". Communication is in four stages, so members are led through what appears to be a pretty safe process until both members want to enter into "open communication" and bypass the service as the middle man. Members can choose to share photos during any stage in the process. I will stick with this service for a while as one month just isn't enough time for me to form an opinion on this system. I guess I think it's worth trying out for a while. I'll keep ya posted.
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